The emotional experiences you live through each day help shape your actions and play a big role in the decisions you make, that either enliven or block your sense of aliveness and vitality. It may seem daunting to try to understand something so subjective, but with time and practice, you can start making sense of your emotions, and respond to different emotional states. Life is challenging, and you will go through various states of emotions every single day. It is how you react to your emotions, and how much you let them dictate your choices or decisions that will shape your destiny. The way you respond in and to different emotional states will depend on your ability to interpret various circumstances and events in your life.
That in itself is a challenge because to manage your emotions, and deal with them, you must understand them so that you can use them to help you obtain your desired results. I want to point out here that this isint manipulation or a game, but a way of giving consent to the world that you live in and having the boundaries that you wish amidst the relationships we live with. You will go through limiting or negative emotions on a daily basis and wonder why you must go through that every day, or why you have to deal with them at all. The only way you can make sense of your emotions is by accepting that they are meant to guide you to make effective decisions every single day.
That is the reason why it is important you try to learn how to interpret your emotions so that they can provide you with the solutions and answers you need from life.
Emotions are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.
– Jonathan Martensson
There are different types of emotions, and analyzing them is going to take a lifetime, but you can breakdown the most common ones you experience. The more understanding you have, even if its just a little bit more goes a long way in creating a sense of grounded-ness and vitality in life. It is important to remember that making sense of your emotions is solely down to your interpretation of what you are feeling and experiencing. The emotional responses you get are signals from your brain that signify when something is wrong, and when something must change. Your emotions are necessary for your survival because they are meant to direct you to act to alleviate any pain or discomfort you experience.
It is easy to get stuck in different emotional states, and most of that is self-inflicted because of your inability to understand why you are experiencing negative or self-limiting emotions. The different emotional states you are stuck in are a patterned response to circumstances, people, and events. They have their own phrases, words and physiological responses, and therefore become comfort seeking mechanisms, which are meant to help you make sense of things.
Understanding Your Emotional Condition
Every day is different, and you wake up feeling different than you do on the previous day, which makes it tougher for you to make sense of your emotions. It isn’t easy making sense of your emotion, because you go through different phases every day. Most of your emotional states don’t need any therapeutic help, but what if your condition is worsening, and your emotional states are becoming increasingly negative? This is where therapy can be incredibly helpful, since it is designed to help people identify their emotional states, and where they stand, where they can be grounded. That teaches them how to respond to their emotions, and make sense of their feelings. Most people can identify their emotional condition, and the secret for doing that is being in tune with your feelings and making sense of what you are going through.
It doesn’t take rocket science to figure out what is putting you in a bad mood, and whether a certain individual is having a negative impact on your behavior and emotional state. To diagnose your emotional state, you must alienate yourself from your feelings, which are having a negative effect on your life. It is a lengthy process, but one that allows you to diagnose your condition. In the process, you must take three different positions, so that you can make sense of your feelings. Here is how it is done:
1. The Outside Position
The very first position you must take is the outside position, which will define your outlook towards the world, which is burdening, boxing in, or threatening. When you are in this position, you mustn’t focus on the emotion, but rather what is the external situation that is causing this emotional state. In this position, you must locate the possible connections between the emotion you are experiencing and the external world. For instance, if you feel that everyone you know is doing better than you, it is imperative you focus your attention on the outside world and contemplate if it makes sense.
Are you being too hard on yourself? Does it make any sense? Is it really true in your case? Are all the signs pointing towards this truth?
It may be that you are experiencing feelings of mistrust that are influencing your emotional state. That is when you must be stronger, and question yourself about the authenticity of your feelings. Most of the times people tend to overact to situations, which stems from their prior experiences in this same situation. If you have had negative experiences, you’re going to develop negative feelings or emotions when the cycle is being repeated. However, you should question whether your feelings warrant the emotional reaction you are currently having.
Does this correspond to what I can see? Is this feeling appropriate for this situation? Am I overthinking in this situation?
It is only after you have made sense of the reality of your current situation will you be able to diagnose your emotion, and deal with the emotional state. The reality of the world is different in most circumstances, and it is imperative that you focus on what you are perceiving since that will have an impact on what you are feeling on the inside.
2. The Inside Position
Once you have begun confronting your emotional state and the main causes behind the emotions, you will start making sense of how your feelings reflect your emotions. That is the inside position and is necessary since it allows you to make sense of the consequences of your feelings. It is perfectly fine to question yourself when you are in the inside position.
Can I endure and bear these feelings? What is the worst that can happen? What will confronting these feelings lead to?
When you take the inside position, you start opening doors towards understanding your emotional state. Why am I feeling this way? Why interpret this feeling this way? What exactly am I experiencing? Does this feel familiar, how? It will allow you to find important answers related to what role your feelings and emotions are playing in your current predicament. Can you handle these feelings, or are your emotions getting the best of you? It is important that you don’t let your emotions drag you down, and your feelings stop you from accomplishing what you want in life. Be with them as if they are a cup of coffee on your lap, or a book you are reading through, or a basketball on the driveway. They simply are what they are. When you take the inside position, you are being honest with yourself, and are weighing up the feelings and emotions together. This is where all the hard work is done when making sense of your emotions, and it is important you don’t lie to yourself.
3. The Positive Position
Once you have successfully moved past the outside and inside positions, you are well placed towards dealing with your emotional state. Diagnosing your emotions and understanding them is only half of the job, the hard part is taking a positive position after you have diagnosed your emotions. It is at this stage that you start asking yourself the difficult questions, like
What matters to me? What is at stake here? Am I going down the right path? Is this in alignment with what I really want? What is this going to achieve?
Self-reflection is important because it allows you to measure your inner feelings, and make sense of the path you have chosen. After you have worked through the previous two positions, you are well placed to take a positive position, because you have achieved a sense of security now. Once you have turned towards the positive approach, you will be able to stand your ground and make decisive changes in the way you feel and react to different situations.
When you are trying to make sense of emotions, it is imperative that you question everything. This isn’t going to be easy and can lead to confusion, which is why you must ask the right questions, which can point you towards the right path. There are numerous self-reflective questions you should focus on, such as the following:
Am I being true to myself? Am I letting matters that are out of my control stress me out? Have I set myself goals that are impossible to achieve? Is it meaningful to identify with my emotions?
The road to salvation and connecting with your emotional state is lengthy and will take you on different paths you never expected. It is necessary that you make the effort to tread forward, even when you feel like giving up because you will reach a higher level of understanding when you truly understand your emotions and how they impact you.
It is necessary now and then for a man to go away by himself and experience loneliness; to sit on a rock in the forest and to ask of himself, ‘Who am I, and where have I been, and where am I going?’ If one is not careful, one allows diversions to take up one’s time—the stuff of life.” ~ Carl Sandburg
Dealing with Your Emotional States
Once you have diagnosed your emotions and understood what is causing you to feel or act a certain way, you are well placed to deal with your emotional state and the environment or situation that brings them up. It will allow you to care for yourself and will enable you to keep your dark or negative feelings in check. If you don’t come to grips with your emotional state, you will make life harder for yourself, and for others, who will struggle to understand what you are going through. That is why it is important that you learn to deal with your different emotional states so that you can take the right decisions for yourself in life.
The biographical conditions of an individual are what allows psychological, physical, and emotional responses in any situation. The feelings connect an individual to their body and to their past since they have an internal relationship with the current predicament. Your feelings challenge you to identify what they mean and understand, but it isn’t easy to make sense of them always. This is because your feelings don’t relate directly to a conversion, your work, your family, or anything particular in your life.
Sometimes it helps to take a step back and contemplate what you are going through because if you try to make sense of everything that you are doing, you will never get ahead in life. Your feelings and emotions are vital towards your survival, but they can also hold you back if you start overthinking and overanalyzing every mood swing, every joyous feeling, every disappointment, or every fit of anger. You don’t need to become an expert in reading your own emotions and feelings because at times, letting it all out is exactly what you need. And honestly, we are always going to experience emotions that we don’t exactly understand, that is life, but it is what makes life always interesting that there is a mystery and we are in a state of growing, learning, understanding more and more the world we live in and who we are. It protects you from being constantly bogged down by emotional pain, which is a pathological tendency that stops you from being happy.
When dealing with different emotional states that are wildly conflicting, you must hold on to your emotions more lightly, so you aren’t overidentifying with them and having them run your life. Learn to hold them more lightly, have a relationship with them so that you can understand them and have them as an accompanying ally and friend that deepens and enriches your life.
Learning to Take It Easy with Emotions
When trying to diagnose and making sense of emotions and feelings, it is very easy to get dragged down and to start thinking about what you are going through. It is important to remember that the study of emotions isn’t an exact science, and going down the path of self-diagnosis is dangerous. Your body-mind connection and emotional reactivity are different, and related to your personal experiences, which can be good or bad. Depending on the conditions, and your state of mind, you will find it easier or harder to deal with certain emotional states.
The key to surviving is to learn to take it easy and blow off a little steam from time to time. You should also remember that a negative emotion or negative frame of mind isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes it is exactly what you need, and it is what keeps your feelings and emotions in the balance. A person that is always striving to achieve positive emotions and feelings will struggle to attain them because they are focused on that and nothing else. In life, you must let things flow, since that will allow you to live a healthy life. It is important to express frustration or anger in some situations, which is just as important as laughing with everyone else.
The good thing is that you can handle most of your emotions fairly easily because as human beings we are hardwired to react in a certain manner in different situations. It is only in some cases where you might feel the need to deal with your emotional state. That usually happens when you are out of tune with your mental state and are confused about your feelings and surroundings. The good news is that you don’t need to be on your guard all the time because life isn’t meant to be taken seriously.
It is perfectly fine to embarrass yourself, act goofy in front of your crush, fail at your job, face disappointments in love, or not meet your own expectations. That is all part of life, and it is going to help you grow because negative experiences are going to shape your emotions and feelings. You mustn’t overthink negative situations because it is how you react to these situations that are going to help build character and allow you to deal with different emotional states.